Know that the love that a man and woman experience with one another in marriage is a gift bestowed upon them from God. They, having been created by God, are experiencing an emotion which itself is a creation of God. How Majestic is the One who creates mankind and then creates a bond amogst that creation so that it may know others of its own kind as a means of worshipping the Creator? How “selfless” is the One who advocates such love? God created mankind so that we may remember, worship, love and beg of Him. Yet He still allows us to love an entity that is other than Him, created by Him.
We must ensure that the love that we have for our spouse is the kind of love that will heighten the love we have for God. Anything less would be an insult to God, a theft of a majestic blessing.
Let the creation of love in our marriages be a mirror of our love and connection with our God. Stressful moments in our marriages must be handled delicately, for they are an indication of how we deal with our wavering faith. Hold on to your tongues when in an argument with your spouse – imagine yourself before God – and use a tone of speech and words that are gentle in nature. Otherwise you run the risk of damaging the love you have with your spouse as well as the love you have with your Creator.
Master first your love with your human counterpart before attempting to master your love for your Creator for you will never be able to master that form of love in this lifetime. One who believes that he and his Creator are in a state of bliss while his wife loathes him is in fact fooling himself into a tragic and fateful end.
Alas, it appears as if the creation of love for our husband or wife was in fact created as a way of easing us into the love we are to have for our Creator. That love, as immeasurable and grand as it is, would be impossible for any man or woman to maintain in his or her feeble heart. Instead, perhaps God created for us spouses so that we may bear at least some of the True Love, the one we are to experience towards God. The “false” love, the one we experience with our spouses, may be phantasmic in the sense that it lacks the ultimate goal of attaining oneness with God - yet still manages to opens our hearts to having an immense desire of attaining that goal.
